A while ago I read a book called Parenting with Love and Logic. Interesting read and they had some good points, but like all parenting books it was about fixing myself. (I don't like that part) The main idea in the book is that you have consequences for your kids that fit the crime. For instance, if you have a child that always storms off in a huff and slams their bedroom door. Then one day they come home from school and their door has been removed. All of it is to be done without anger. The hardest part for me is being creative enough to know what the right consequence should be.
Yesterday Charlie and Jane were at each others throats. Yelling, kicking, hitting. They had been on time out throughout the day. It wasn't working. I had spent most of the day raising my voice and making threats that I really wasn't ready to back up.
Then I'd had enough.
The inspiration came.
I put them both in the dining room and made them stand there and hug each other.
Ha! It was awesome! Neither of them were happy. Mom was.
This time I think I got it right.
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The looks on both your kids is making me laugh right now! Let us know if this solves the problem. :) If so, then I guess I'll be posting a picture of me and Thayne crying and hugging each other!!!!
Good job! Nothing makes you love your sibling more than hugging them when you want to rip their hair out.
I love that you got a picture of this. I've heard of that book and I love it, but I too have a hard time knowing what the consequences should be. My sister in-law told her two fighting teenagers to go to their room together and not to come back until one of them was dead! I couldn't stop laughing.
p.s. your children are beautiful- even when they are fighting mad!
that picture is too cute! when we were younger and always fighting my mom would send us to our rooms until we could be nice to each other, funny thing is the second we were in our rooms in trouble we became the best of friends and would play nicely together!
i might need to pick up that book sometime! :)
Yep, that's amazing. Absolutely perfect. I think it would have worked for Cody and I too when we were little. Well, it would have at least been torture for Cody.
That's too funny. I laughed right out loud!
ahaha. Oh Aunty Kim you are the greatest! Their faces are priceless.... so funny.... :)
-Cammi-
That's great! If my brother and I were fighting my mom would make us sit in the middle of the living room and hold hands until we told each other sorry and I love you. After I got a little older I would just say it so that I could stop holding his hands!
lol this reminds me of when my parents used to break up our fights by saying "you can't sit by each other. you can't look at each other. you can't talk to each other." it usually got a "no, no. we'll get along."
That's awesome! Way to go mom! My kids can't stand hugging each other when they're mad either, and it makes me so happy. Revenge is sweet!
Awesome! I will need to remember that one.
haha, what great inspiration!!! i'll have to call you for help finding punishments that help fit the crime for my kids! i love their cute little faces!!! hope everyone is feeling better!
My Mom used to make us do similar things when we were being bad. That's funny!
I have been wanting to buy that book. Is it any good for 2 year olds? That picture is hilarious. Love it.
HAHAHA!!! That...is...so...AWESOME! I love the picture.
That is hilarious--it reminds me of when I was younger. My two little sisters were fighting all day, so my mom duct taped their wrists together and made them spend some quality time together. Good job!!
Hey Kimber-It's Shana (Olsen) Spencer. I found your blog on Tiff's and have loved reading it! Your kids crack me up. I just read a Love and Logic book for earlychildhood and it has made all the difference in the world!!! Good job making the punishment fit the crime!!!
That is AWESOME. And EVIL!!! Good job.
Classic. Your blog is by far the most entertaining. Thank you for breaking up my day. BTW your kids are so dang cute! Are you sure you're not making these things up?!?
LOVE, Love and Logic. I think it saved my sanity. In Washington they had a free love and logic class every Thursday. They would provide babysitting AND dinner for the kids! It was amazing. I remember the first time I tried it with Ellie. She was frustrated because her playroom was SOOOO messy. She was taking hours to clean it and I kept saying, "JUST DO IT!" Then I remembered that thing where if you make it their idea it will create success. I went in and said, "do you want to start with all the books, or all the stuffed animals?" She immediately perked up and said, "I'll do the books first!" And she went to work. I turned around and was like Holy CRAP! IT WORKS! I have to re-read it every once in a while for a re-fresher because I always fall back into my old habits. It's great, I love it! (this is long!)
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